Trust your intuition

This is a post which I feel I must get off my chest immediately.

I am recently in a peaceful mode, because thank god, I am more willing to follow what my heart tells me, and I take actions to get rid of things, people, memory, whatever, that no longer serves in my life.

Lol.. But I happened to saw a picture of my ex married with a girl who he has a crush on for.. who knows how long. So, believe it. Believe when your heart tries to tell you something. Believe in yourself, your intuitions.

I am no bitter woman, not feeling jealous, upset, or devastated.

My reaction was “ah-ha”.

So this was it.

So this is why, although he is a person who posts on Facebook regularly, but wishy washy on declaring your relationship on Facebook, on the excuse that he is old and it is not his style to announce the world his personal life. The next things you see are pictures of him and his new girlfriend posted frequently. zzz. Excuses. (Btw, i find it annoying and have eliminated unwanted items from my Facebook.)

And among common friends, your relationship would be very secretively kept until it cannot be.

And he never tried to introduce you to his own friends. Maybe they are too old. You won’t like their activities.

And he delays introducing his family to you, with more excuses that I can’t be bothered to say. He eventually did, but did not try to let you integrate. It is not in his wish list. And he could not be bothered to integrate into your family, even though you know your family are the loveliest bunch of people you know.

This is why, he was often over sensitive and dismissive and picky towards you. And you wondered whats f**king wrong. No. There’s nothing wrong with you. The answer is, “He does not love you.”

And he would not be willing to pay when you go out. He will press you for payment if you owe him money. He will call you names. After you broke up with him, you would realise he has been bad mouthing you with twisted facts in front of his crush and your other common friends. It does not matter that those are not facts and you never ever say anything bad about him, even though he has plenty, to your common friends. You protect him this way. But he hurts you this way.

Then you realise that your closest friends did not like him in some way since long ago. They can see bad traits in him. They did not approve of him even though there was no interaction. Of course he did not want to have anything to do with your friends. He would rather watch TV at home or do something else. Your friends love you, so they never say anything bad about him. But they come clean when they know the bad romance is over. It is better for me, that I let go of that person. He just doesn’t feel right. Your friends know it.

Well, actually I knew it.

I knew all of it.

I felt that the relationship is not right within the first week. So I suggested not to continue. But he would say that he loves you. NO. Do not trust words. Trust your heart instead. People can lie. Your heart will stay true to you. Your heart knows what it wants, and what are right for you.

If you listened to your heart, you would have prevented all these, and get together with the right one earlier. And you would be the one happily married.

There would be signs that continue to bug you, if you chose to believe in despicable words. You do not feel any spark. You sense dishonesty. You felt lied to. You felt used. You feel that sometimes you are walking on a thin thread, that he can explode anytime, anywhere. You died without knowing why. You feel his boredom, and yours. You feel frustrated, and you know it is not your fault even though he insisted. You make time for him, but he checks Facebook during a meal. (WHAT THE FUCK!) He makes excuses not to meet you. He finds excuses to quarrel. You are extremely unhappy being with such a person, even before you knew he was bitching about you with lies. (Which made me boil afterwards.) There are almost no common topics, and neither of you are interested in what the other was saying. The frequency is very different.

You know you cannot share your life with this person, for myriad reasons which you might not be able to articulate. He did not try to integrate into your life. His habits are unacceptable to you. Sometimes you find him annoying. Sometimes Most of the times, he is unreasonable. No matter what you say, no matter how soft you are, you are always the person who started it, you are always the sinner. The world is bad. His girlfriend is bad. It does not matter what was the issue. He just wanted to fight.

Somehow, you know you would soon be the “crazy ex girlfriend”, except that you know he is the one with issues.

All these ranting.. just to say: Please follow your heart.

I have been in other situations whereby I felt extremely upset, exasperated, outraged.. And all because I did not follow what my intuition told me. Again and again, life has thrown lessons at me, reminding me to follow my heart. I know it will keep throwing painful lessons at me if I still do not learn.

So I hope I have learnt.

Although the above was an ultra ridiculous experience, what’s past has past. I am not sure how long the married couple would be happy together. They are deleted from my life.

What’s important now is how I would live my own life, and live a great one!

If your heart tells you that it is not possible to trust the relationship or the person, listen to it, and get away ASAP.

Another adage is true: You just know it.

I am glad it was all over. And I know I am in a better place now. I have found my Mr Right, and every experience with him is pure bliss. When a person/situation/matter is right, you just know it. Your heart knows it. So listen.

 

 

 

Stranded in Munich Hauptbahnhof 

German trains are usually punctual, for most of my time here. It’s been 21days, minus the almost 12h flight from Singapore. I don’t understand why important information like a delay of possibly 1 hour was not conveyed in English. Don’t Germany realise that Munich is an extremely popular tourist destination and so is the Neuschwanstein castle which inspired Disney fairytale castles? 

That’s why I’m pretty pissed.. And the answer I got from a staff is, “we don’t know what time it will come, if it will come”.. 

Is that acceptable really.. 

That sucks… 

My check in time is limited to before 9pm, as is the case with most German guest houses and small hotels. Now I’m not sure what I can do really.. To give it up and stay one night in Munich instead means paying 2 nights for 1. Don’t they at least owe me an English explanation???

Fat vs Sugar

There has been this debate regarding whether fat or sugar is worse. Which makes u fat? A pair of twin brothers, who are also doctors, did 1 month experiment on themselves in an attempt to find out the answer.

BBC Documentary: Fat vs Sugar

Some points to note:

CARBOHYDRATES (low fat diet)

  • Provide fuel for brain. Brain uses 60% glucose for energy, so lack of carbs would lead to decreased performance in memory and focus.
  • It is a more efficient fuel for physical activity as compared to fat.
  • Contrary to popular belief, it actually increases sensitivity to insulin. Effects are more efficient lowering of blood sugar after meals.

FATS (low carb diet)

  • Suppresses ghrelin (hunger hormone) for longer periods of time, hence making one feel full for longer.
  • There seem to be a stop trigger to prevent one from consuming too much fat.
  • Does not necessary makes one fat. On the other hand, one may lose weight, but that includes a large percentage of muscle mass, which leads to potential problems in future. This is due to the breakdown of muscle for energy as glucose are not readily available.
  • Desensitize response to insulin. After one month of high fat low carb, Dr Xand actually became 0.2 points to being pre-diabetic.

The combinations of sugar & fat: (not available in nature)

  • The killer is a 50-50 combination of sugar and fat.
  • There is no mechanism to pull a stop trigger.
  • It is almost addictive as the combi makes people go back for seconds.
  • Mice experiment showed great increase in body mass.

In conclusion, a healthy diet is one that is balanced. It is unhealthy to exclude major macronutrients. Eat real food existent in nature, and reduce processed foods to minimal.

It is an interesting experiment. My sis often wonders why our grandma is healthy and living a long life despite eating all sorts of things – carb, fat, protein. She came to her own conclusion that grandma doesn’t eat processed foods. Grandma does not snack on potato chips, cookies and cheesecake. She does not even like butter and milk much, though she often put too much oil in the dishes she cooks. And she loves to walk, is always curious, and kind.

Sometimes the answer is around us. We just need to observe. As Michael Pollan puts it in Food Rules,

  1. Eat Food
  2. Mostly Plants
  3. Not too much

That pretty much sums up. No need for complicated science or calculation of calories. Calorie counting don’t work (been there done that). It serves as a guide but just a very vague one. It is like currency. Different currencies has different values and not exactly interchangeable. It is complicated. Calories from carb and protein are different. Its origins matters, how it is metabolised are also different. So, one calorie from bread does not really mean one calorie from an apple, or pork. It is different.

Vanilla Almond Granola

Easy to make and delicious Vanilla Almond Granola! It is surprisingly easy to make. What took me so long to try?!

Whisk together coconut oil and syrup until well combined.

Make sure the oats are evenly coat.

Spread it evenly on the pan before baking. Stir to ensure the granola is baked evenly, every 15 mins.

Vanilla Almond Granola

Ingredients:

2½ cup or 200g rolled oats

¾ cup silvered almonds

½ tsp cinnamon

1/8 tsp salt

½ cup maple syrup (substituted with golden syrup)

¼ cup coconut oil

¼ tsp almond extract (omitted)

1 tbsp vanilla extract (yes, 1 tablespoon)

Method:

  1. Preheat oven to 300oF or 150oC. Line baking pan with baking paper.
  2. Toss oats, almonds, cinnamon, salt together. Set aside.
  3. Whisk syrup, coconut oil till combined.
  4. Whisk in almond extract and vanilla extract.
  5. Pour the wet ingredients over oats mixture and toss to coat evenly, making sure all oats are moistened.
  6. Spread it on the baking sheet, and bake for 45min, stirring every 15min.
  7. Allow granola to cool completely so that it will be crunchy.
  8. Keep in airtight container for up to 3 weeks, at room temperature.

Notes:

  • It is a scale down from the original recipe, and it fits my baking pan just nice. So it depends on the size of your own baking pan.
  • I used a combination of sliced almonds and diced almonds because that’s what I have on hand. I find that sliced almonds are good as it is thin and crunchy after baking, giving the finished product more “dimension”.
  • I omitted almond extract as I finished it. The granola was still good.
  • Substituted maple syrup with golden syrup. Yea.. I am making it more unhealthy so called. But I think that both are sugars, and downing too much maple syrup is equivalent to overdose of sugar too. Besides, it was practical for me because I could not think of a better way to finish up my golden syrup. End product was good, maybe better because golden syrup is thicker and sweeter compared to maple syrup. Just eat in moderation. J
  • Stirring every 15 min is absolutely important, especially that I used almond flakes, which are thin. Some almond flakes were still burnt.
  • It is absolutely delicious and easy to make.

 

No bake Peanut Butter Cookies

I am trying.. to prepare more food that I can bring on the go, as my new workplace is horrendously inaccessible and far, with

not many food choices that suits me. (There is only one canteen.)

Close-up texture of the cookies

Anyway, I found this recipe on Tone It Up. If u are female and trying to “Tone It Up”, u won’t regret popping over to take a look. The site is managed by two gorgeous women who are fitness trainers and decided to start a community where women can encourage each other to become healthy and fit. There are plenty of FREE articles for exercise routines, recipes, motivation, etc.

The recipes they provide are pretty simple, delicious and healthy. I have reached an age whereby I can feel it if I drank too much the previous night, or if I don’t sleep properly for 2 days. I just feel, I can’t go on living the way I lived. I NEED to CHANGE. So, I found their site by chance and it has become my new hobby. Hope things turn out well 🙂

I was just lazy to sift the cocoa powder, so I had to do extra work trying to let it all well mixed using two spoons (refer to next picture). Recommended: Sift the cocoa powder first.

Make sure everything is well mixed.

Mix well, and fast, as the oats “soak” peanut butter dry too fast.

After 20 minutes??

Ingredients

    • 1/3 cup honey
    • 1/2 cup almond milk
    • 3 to 4 tbsp cacao powder
    • 1/2 cup peanut butter (no-sugar added, natural peanut butter)
    • 3 cups oats
    • 1 scoop vanilla or chocolate Perfect Fit protein powder

Method

  1. Heat honey, milk, cacao powder over medium heat till boiling.
  2. Add peanut butter, oats and protein powder. Mix well.
  3. Form into cookies, place on wax paper. Refrigerate until set.

Notes

  • Sift the cocoa powder first, so that it can mix well with the other ingredients.
  • Shaping into energy balls or bars is easier, I find. It’s really up to u. What shape and size, it doesn’t matter.
  • Used skimmed milk instead of almond milk
  • Rolled oats were used.
  • The end product was just sweet enough for my liking, but maybe not sweet enough for general public who are desensitized by too much sugar in the daily food. (Plus, I added extra cocoa powder so it is even less sweet. It did not turn out too crumbly because I only add a little extra.)
  • It is good to know that the peanut butter should not be too dry otherwise it will be harder to mix. (I did not mix properly and took some drier portions of the peanut butter).